Last weekend my mom and her sister were at our house for dinner. My mom was talking about her experience using hearing aids to her inquiring sister. It seems her sister is noticing hearing loss and was trying to get a sense from my mom of what it would be like to use hearing aids. I stood chopping veggies in the kitchen overhearing this conversation with keen interest and it was a simple statement that my mom made that gave me pause.
This is what she said….. “wearing my hearing aids is a gift I give to the people that I am with”.
I found this interesting because many times in clinic I hear people with unaided hearing loss tell me, “its not a problem for me, but my spouse would say otherwise.
Using hearing aids is an act of love to the people around you. Taking steps and making effort to ease communication in a relationship is an act of kindness to the one you love.
To show them that what they have to say is meaningful.
So this Valentines day, you can give flowers or take efforts to improve communication by accepting that if one person in a relationship is expressing a problem then it is not just her/his problem, it is a communication problem which by definition is a two way street.
Or, best case scenario, you can do both.
Happy Valentines Day.